Separation and Divorce are challenging, but then you have to consider the impact it will have on your relationship with your children. Some important things to consider are:
Maintaining a Positive Relationship with Your Children
Even in difficult circumstances, try to keep your relationship with your children consistent, loving, and supportive. This helps you to adapt to the big changes happening and helps your children navigate their new normal.
● Regular Contact
Where possible, prioritise spending time together—whether in person, over the phone, or via video calls. Consistency helps maintain connection.
● Positive Communication
Avoid criticising the other parent in front of your children. This can deepen their confusion or distress, and may even lead to complications in parenting arrangements in the future.
● Reinforce Love and Stability
Keep reminding your children that you care about them and will always be there for them. Reassurance helps them feel safe and valued and will also assist you to hold steady in difficult times.
Consider Working with a Mediator
Mediation can sometimes help resolve conflicts and set healthier patterns for communication which is particularly important in parenting following separation.
A neutral mediator can support both parents to:
● Discuss parenting issues in a structured setting
● Develop agreements about contact and routines
● Focus on the children's best interests considering their developmental age and stage rather than past grievances
Engage Support
Engaging a child psychologist or family therapist can be an important part of understanding and addressing difficulties following the breakdown of a family unit. Professionals can:
● Help your child process confusing or negative messages
● Offer strategies to rebuild trust and connection
● Provide assessments that may be helpful if your matter goes to court
Therapy can also support parents with tools for managing stress and responding calmly to challenging situations.
Seek Advice
If you are struggling with parenting arrangements post-separation, seek legal advice regarding your rights and what you might be able to do to assist you and your family moving forward.
